re:Generations

Blogging a bust for Millennials?

2010-03-15T09:09:00.001-04:00

Hello! I’m Carrie Cannaday, and I’m thrilled to have the opportunity to be a guest blogger here on the re:Generations blog.

Jessica invited me to blog on this site several months ago, and I was so grateful for her invitation! Since then, it has taken me several months to muster up a post!

I was really beating myself up over my lack of initiative to sit down and blog, until... Jessica sent me this Pew Research Center study on Social Media and Internet Use, and I realized that my behavior is only typical for a millennial such as I!

According to this study, blogging has been on the decline among teens and young adults since 2006. The percentage of teens and young adults (those under 30) who blogged then was 28 percent, compared to 14 percent who maintain a blog now.

This sharp decline in blogging among youth is met by consistency in blogging among older adults. One in ten online adults (ages 30 and up) has consistently maintained a blog since 2005.

So, why the decline in blogging among teens and young adults?

The Pew study indicates that youth and young adults are gravitating toward micro-blogging techniques, as one-third of young adults (age 18-29) now post or read status updates on social networking sites.

In my own personal experiences, and based on what I observe from my peers, I’d say that all this is linked to the fact that we are a multi-tasking/microwave generation that prefers to express ourselves quickly and often in short status updates (like those on social networking sites such as Facebook or Twitter), rather than take the time to sit down and write a lengthy blog.

Oddly enough, my own personal experiences correlate perfectly with what the Pew study indicates. Prior to 2006, I was an avid blogger - writing, on average, 3 to 5 blogs a week. Since 2006, however, I have ceased keeping a personal blog, and have (as you can tell from my lack of blogs on this site) struggled to blog at all!

All the while, I have, over the past few years, been micro-blogging through posting regular updates on Facebook and Twitter, and I have noticed that my peers are largely doing the same.

So, my advice to you if you’re looking for more frequent updates from re:Generations: try visiting the re:Gens Facebook and Twitter pages! :-)

And, on the same note, now that I’m aware of my generation’s blogging short-falls, I’ll also see if I can attempt to work harder to combat them! I’ll try to be back with another blog soon! ;-)

Until next time...
-Carrie

Millennials and meds

2010-01-12T16:00:00.003-05:00

Check out this study on high school/college students and depression. It found five times as many high school and college students are dealing with anxiety and other mental health issues as youth of the same age who were studied in the Great Depression era. Fascinating stuff... and an area I've been wanting to study more.

http://http//www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/01/11/AR2010011100261.html

As to the "why's" of the depression/anxiety surge... there's a lot to uncover. The article sites a couple of causes: societal pressures to be rich and beautiful, and doting parents.

Several studies also have captured the growing interest in being rich, with
77 per cent of those questioned for UCLA's 2008 national survey of college
freshmen saying it was "essential" or "very important" to be financially well
off.Experts say such high expectations are a recipe for disappointment.

Meanwhile, they also note some well-meaning but overprotective parents have
left their children with few real-world coping skills, whether that means doing
their own budget or confronting professors on their own.

It would also be interesting to examine the role of technology in all this. Many young people live in a socially networked world that can end up being pretty lonely and isolating at the end of the day. Then there's the confusion between virtual life and real life. Ex: killer wii bowler, yet stink in real life bowling. (aka: me)

We also live in a world that offers a pill for every ill. I'd be interested to see how many parents/doctors just throw medicine at young people as a first resort "fix," instead of identifying the root causes of their troubles... working through the "coping" steps... or seeing a counselor, etc.

Certainly depression/anxiety is a serious issue and often requires medical attention. I don't downplay that at all. But, I find it interesting that our generation (who has it all) is struggling more than the great depression youngsters (who really had it tough).

What do you think is contributing to the problem?

One thing's for sure: we all want our youth to grow up to be happy, healthy young adults. Yet they are hurting. How can we help?

re:Generations blogging is back!

2009-05-03T13:13:00.013-04:00

Hello, hello! It’s about time I blogged a bit, huh? Thanks for your emails requesting re:Gens updates. It’s been an incredibly busy, and amazing, year for the ministry; it all started with a partnership with ‘Faith in the Family International,’ FFI for short. re:Generations is now member ministry of this great organization, thus receiving 501c3, non-profit status. In addition to encouragement and wise counsel, FFI acts as a ministry enabler, providing ‘legal, financial, and administrative services as well as a "covering" and accountability for men and women who are called of God to lead a biblically-based outreach without the hassle or expense of organizing and operating a separate non-profit organization.’ What a blessing! To learn more about FFI, check out ministryenablers.net.

I kicked off the New Year speaking at the United Methodist Church’s ‘Holston Conference’ in Lake Junaluska, North Carolina. It was an honor to interact with hundreds of pastors and youth leaders who are eager to reach my generation. We left challenged, and encouraged. My mentor, Lisa, came along for the ride.

A few weeks later I packed my bags and jumped on a tour bus with 20 college students from King College. Destination: New York City! We served a non-profit organization in Brooklyn called CAMBA, relieving them of the nitty-gritty, time-consuming jobs like cleaning, painting, running errands, etc.

I was on ‘team organization’ and, as you can see, we didn’t mess around with our closet cleaning!

My favorite part of the trip was getting to know these beautiful young men and women who gave up their spring break and PAID $500 to scrub toilets. Their only ambition was to be the hands and feet of Jesus. Words weren’t necessary. I was inspired, blessed and encouraged by the servant-like heart of these college students. Our generation, as a whole, really desires to change the world. And, when we channel that longing for Christ, watch out!

As much as we worked hard in the Big Apple, we made sure to play hard! I think I pulled a muscle in this picture. (I knew I should have stretched first!) Grandma here is getting too old for the late nights and endless adventures that college life entails. But, I sure did enjoy it for a week!

I also had the great opportunity to be on set for ‘Hannity’s America.’ Sean and his staff were very gracious.

Meeting Karl Malone, aka: The Mailman, wasn’t too shabby either!

After NYC, I spoke at a Missions Conference at Christian Medical and Dental Associations. As always, it was a blast. There were ministry leaders from all over the world present, so I gained a global perspective on inter-generational ministry. Thanks CMDA Missions teams!

Perhaps one of the greatest opportunities I’ve had to this point came in April, when I was invited to share on Capitol Hill! I spoke to the House Values Action Team, ‘VAT,’ and several other pro-life organizations on how to reach my generation with the conservative/values message. This is my passion! It was an invaluable experience, and several neat endeavors have emerged as a result. I’m overwhelmed with gratefulness.

As you can see by these highlights, it’s been a great year thus far. I’m thankful for the Lord’s faithfulness. All this is because of Him. Please continue to pray for re:Generations as we move forward with many new and exciting projects and partnerships. I value your love, support and encouragement.

All for Christ,

Jessica

The DMV and Me

2009-01-01T11:25:00.010-05:00

It’s official: I’m a Tennessee resident... again!

I waited three hours-- with 50 other restless Tennesseans-- for my turn to fill out papers and get a mug shot. Fun times!

I frequent the dreaded DMV more often than not because, according to my moving stats, I relocate every two years. With the help of family and friends, I’ve packed up many the U-Hauls and trekked my way from Virginia… to Colorado… to Tennessee. Oh the adventures!

It’s a great season of life to try different jobs, experience other cultures and make new friends. And it’s not unusual for my generation to pack up, hit the road and do just that. Forty-five percent of my peers [24-35 year old Americans] expect to move within the next two years. My guess is, they will. And they should!

I'm excited to discover where my next adventure leads. Until then... on to the next government renewal on my list: a passport.

Italy anyone? :)

Miracle of the Moment

2008-10-14T15:20:00.004-04:00

It’s been one of those days.

I overslept and was late for an important meeting this morning. That’s not good, considering I had to leave the meeting early to catch a flight.

Luckily, my tardiness came to an end and I was on time for my flight. Too bad it was canceled. (I’m famous for getting stranded in airports, but usually not on my first leg!) Four standbys, three security checks and six hours later… I find myself hanging out at the Tri-Cities airport, praying I can get to Memphis in time to speak at 7:00 tonight.

I’m cutting it close, but I’m not stressed. (Which is not like me!) Instead, I’m sitting back, enjoying the miracle of this moment. It’s one I probably would have missed had God not slowed-down my day. My ‘moment’ goes a little something like this…

In my consulting endeavors, I’ve met some incredible people from all walks of life. Weeks ago, I mentioned to one of those people--Harry-- how much I love ‘hearing people’s stories.’ Everyone has a story to tell. What would happen if we just took time to listen?

Harry recommended a book called, ‘Listening is an Act of Love.’ It’s a compilation of stories written by average, everyday Americans. To my surprise, Harry handed me the book as I frantically rushed out of the office this morning. I quickly said, ‘Thanks! I look forward to reading it.’ And… off I went.

Since I accrued some downtime today, I opened the book. I was starting the first chapter when a piece of paper fell out. On the paper was a letter, written to me.

Jessica… I have to share a story regarding the “Listening is an Act of Love Book.”

Let me start by retelling a fable I once heard. It seems there was this Christian Missionary living amongst tribal people and working with children rather deep in the jungles of Africa. On her birthday, one small eight year old gave her, as a gift, the most beautiful seashell. She was taken back… not so much by the shell’s beauty… but by knowing that they were at least two days journey from the nearest seashore. She knew that the little fellow must have trekked through the jungle for at least three if not four days to retrieve the shell. Upon expressing her dismay to the little fellow that he had endure so much danger and hard work on her behalf… he replied… “But teacher, the journey is part of the gift.”

It appears that “Listening is an Act of Love” will come out in paperback on October 28th. I know now that when a book is scheduled to come out in paperback, the store returns all unsold hardback copies to the publisher. I searched at no less than six bookstores for this book and finally found this one last and lonely hardback at a store in Christiansburg on Sunday. When I went to the info desk to inquire if they had additional copies, they informed me that all had been returned to the publisher and they were surprised that this copy was still on the shelf. As a matter of fact, one of the attendants seemed to be attempting to casually slide the book away from me when I quite assertively explained that this copy was leaving with me!!!

I know you will enjoy this book. And I have greatly enjoyed tracking it down for you… because the journey is part of the gift.

Harry

The journey is part of the gift…. I'm so grateful! What a sweet reminder of selflessness. Thank you, Harry! And to think, I very well could have missed this blessing.

And so I sit quietly in the Tri-Cities Airport, watching the planes fly over the colorful Tennessee Mountains, reading my new book and sipping on a coffee, (per usual). I still don’t have a confirmed flight. I’m still scheduled to speak in Memphis at 7:00. And, I’m still enjoying the miracle of this moment.

Steven Curtis Chapman sings it like this: “So breathe it in and breathe it out. Listen to your heartbeat. There’s a wonder in the here and now. It’s right there in front of you. And I don’t want you to miss the miracle of the moment.”

Are you enjoying the miracle of your moment?

True or False: Millennials are philanthropic?

2008-09-09T22:53:00.005-04:00

The answer, according to a recent Campbell & Co. study, is TRUE. Eighty-percent of its Millennial respondents participate in charitable giving. The report also dispels the myth that my peers and I are less generous than older generations when it comes to giving.

“Factors such as education, income level and frequency of church attendance -- not age -- account for the differences between generations in how much and how often people give to charities the study concluded.”
-Western Michigan Business Review article
http://www.mlive.com/businessreview/western/index.ssf/2008/06/study_millennials_just_as_will.html

That’s great news for non-profits! The challenge, then, becomes communicating with potential Millennial donors in a way we will hear, understand and want to be a part of. Too often well-intentioned messaging gets lost in translation.

"It's like any other transition -- foundations and philanthropic organizations need to think about what issues are important to those donors and how they want to be communicated with and all of the other complexities that go into their fund raising. The needs of the market are changing. Organizations are having to adapt to that change and the way they raise funds."
-Maria Gajewski, researcher with the Dorothy A. Johnson Center for Philanthropy and Nonprofit Leadership at Grand Valley State University, as quoted in the Western Michigan Business Review

So, what motivates Millennials to give? “A desire to make the world a better place,” the report finds.

Here. There. And everywhere.

2008-08-28T22:42:00.013-04:00

That pretty much sums up my whereabouts over the past two months. From Detroit to Colorado Springs to Seattle, I’ve enjoyed a series of adventures both personally and professionally. I apologize for my blogging negligence in the interim!

My trip to Michigan was extra special. I was blessed to celebrate my former Colorado roomie, aka: my best friend Amber’s wedding.

Congrats Josh and Amber Luongo!

The second wedding of the summer was a little closer to home. My beautiful little sister, Emily, married the love of her life. Allie and I got to stand by her side, and even gained a brother out of the deal. Score!

I love you Chris and Emily!

(Stay tuned for blogs on marriage trends)

Next on the agenda? A trip to my old stomping grounds in Colorado Springs. I had the great pleasure of speaking at the Navigators Headquarters and meeting new friends who have a passion for reaching 20-somethings for Christ.

My purpose for going to Colorado was to gain insight into intergenerational ministry strategies from Dr. Chuck Stecker, President of ‘A Chosen Generation.’ I look forward to sharing what I learned. Great stuff!

Last but not least, I landed in beautiful Seattle, Washington to attend the Navigators’ 20-something ministry, called B2G’s, national gathering. We heard from awesome speakers, made new friends and roughed it on a cruise ship in Puget Sound.

In summary: It’s been an incredible 2 months. I’m grateful!

A little less talk a lot more listen

2008-07-03T22:07:00.007-04:00

“What do you remember most about growing up?”

Their timeworn hands raised one after another.

“World War II….” “The Great Depression…” "Wearing hand-me-downs..." “My family…”

I listened intently as the seniors at First Baptist Church recounted the life-altering events that shaped their views of the world. I quickly realized the guest speaker, aka me, needed to talk less and listen more.

These beautiful men and women have so much wisdom to hand down. I desperately want to receive it. Do you? If so, I have a challenge. Actively seek out a senior member in your church, take him/her out for coffee and ask him/her to describe the world he/she grew up in. Sit back, sip on your latte and listen. I guarantee your heart will be touched and your priorites challenged. I know mine were.

Why are 20-somethings skipping out on Sundays? IV

2008-06-26T09:41:00.016-04:00

I know; I know… it’s about time for a new topic. But, quite honestly, I’m captivated by this question. So please forgive my ramblings.

I love going to God’s house to worship, and to study His Word. It’s the fellowship part I struggle with most. One Sunday school door is labeled ‘college class.’ Its next-door neighbor is called ‘single and mingle.’ (Cringe, cringe, cringe!) Life after college is drastically different, as we all know. And single groups… well… if only I had time to share my horror stories involving hula skirts, 40-year-old men and fish. Need I say more?

As a single, 26-year-old woman, I feel like I’m an awkward fit in the church…and often life in general. I think many of my peers feel the same way. And so, when Sunday morning rolls around, it’s all too easy to hit the snooze button or to show up for the main service, and jet out the door after closing prayer.

Not all 20-somethings make it that far. Many quit going to church after high school, and want nothing to do with Christianity. In their new book unChristian, authors Dave Kinnaman and Gabe Lyons find 16-29 year-olds have a very bad impression of the Christian faith. When asked to describe it, here’s what my generation had to say:

#1 Anti-homosexual: 91% outsiders, 80% churchgoers

#2 Judgmental: 87% outsiders, 52% churchgoers

#3 Hypocritical: 85% outsiders, 47% churchgoers

#4 Old-fashioned: 78%outsiders, 36% churchgoers

Outsiders = those looking at the Christian faith from the outside. (Atheists, agnostics, those affiliated with a faith other than Christianity, and other un-churched who are not born-again Christians)

Other significant findings:

Nearly two out of every five young outsiders claim to have a “bad impression of present-day Christianity.”

Only one out of seven outsiders describes Christianity as something that seems genuine and real.

Just one-third believe that Christians show genuine interest in them.

FYI: there are about 24 million outsiders in this country who are 16-29.

In summary: many in my generation feel that Christians are more focused on converting them, than getting to know them as human beings.

What’s the take-away for your church, ministry or non-profit?

Provide a Christ-centered community for young adults.
(Remember we are often away from home, dislocated from structure, and making significant life decisions. We need your help.)

Build meaningful relationships with my generation.
(Meet us where we are, even if we have a tattoo or two!)

And, don’t forget…stick to the truth, mentor and pray.

Why are 20-somethings skipping out on Sundays? Tres.

2008-06-16T12:26:00.011-04:00

The question has pierced the heart of the congregation at First Baptist Church in Bristol, Virginia. They formed a task force to start the most important step in reaching 20-somethings: PRAYER. I had the great pleasure of speaking to the group on Thursday.

(My fabulous Millennial intern, Lea!)

Most 20-somethings pledge an allegiance toChristianity: 78-percent, to be exact. But one peek at our Facebook profiles reveals the association is only words deep. Our actions, lifestyles and choices aren’t backing it up. What’s going on?

Consider the fact that we have no foundation on Biblical truth. The only truth we know is socially constructed. (We’re finding that version is flawed) We just missed the apologetics movement, and we don’t know how to intelligently articulate or defend our faith.

The natural progression is to make decisions based on what feels right, or causes the least amount of conflict. Faith in God fits half that bill. So we keep Him on an individualistic level, sacrificing the life-support that comes from being connected to a body of believers.

I don’t think there’s an ‘A+ B = C’ formula to get 20-somethings back in church, nor should there be. But, I do think we’re off to a great start. Remember…

PRAY. For wisdom, discernment and vision.

TRUTH. We’re searching for it. Don’t water it down. Let us dig deep.
‘Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.’ -1 John 8:32

TOGETHER. It takes you. And me.

More to come soon!

Happy Father's Day!

2008-06-14T19:15:00.004-04:00

He was an All-American athlete (in 3 sports) in high school. He was equally successful in the classroom. He was a football star at Virginia Tech, and left behind a linebacker legacy at Lane Stadium. He married the love of his life… and traded in his jersey for Barbie dolls, curling irons and volleyball courts when the girls came. His resume includes prestigious titles like ‘President’ or ‘Founder,’ Sunday school teacher, deacon, and school board member. But it’s his faith that people really talk about.

This man is my hero. He’s also my dad: Mike Stollings.

Dad was there for all the bumps and bruises that accumulated the day I rode my first big girl bike. He cheered me on for 8 straight hours until I final peddled without training wheels! (He documented the whole thing on video, of course!)

Then there was the Saturday he cleared out our garage so I could practice my over-hand serve for Middle School volleyball tryouts. I made it! That meant Saturday practices at 8:00am. Not bad, except the gym was an hour away from home! Some of my fondest memories were those 6:30am commutes with dad. (‘film line!’)

Dad was at all my volleyball games through high school and college. Whether I made a play of the day, or got taken out of the game, his response was always the same. He would look at me, smile, and lift his pointer finger in the air. That was his way of reminding me to play for an audience of one.

Dad’s support of me went far beyond the court. He was at every one of my extra-curricular activities or award ceremonies. He was also there to hold me through life’s heart aches and tears.

I’ve grown up a little and moved from the court to the career. But what I’ve found is: I need my dad just the same.

Now he’s become my personal U-Haul driver and packer for three major moves. (One includes 24 hours with a 16-week-old, hyper-active puppy)

Then there was my latest drama: an unexpected back surgery. The sleepless nights and physical limitations that followed were a challenge. Whether 4pm, or 4am… dad never left my side.

He’s sacrificed a lot to help me pursue the dream God’s put on my heart. From filing papers to reserving domain names, once again… dad has been my rock.

And, although, I only live 15 minutes from my parents… dad always texts me to make sure I arrive home safely. I play it off as silly. But, deep down, I think it’s the sweetest thing ever!

My dad embodies a life dedicated to faith, family and FUN! He is the most genuine, Godly, humble, selfless and successful man I have ever met. I love him with all my heart.

Thank you, dad, for all you do for mom, me, Emily and Allie-Kate. We are blessed. Happy Father’s Day!

Lights, camera, action; a re:Generations photo shoot

2008-06-06T17:12:00.005-04:00

These are my friends. They are teachers, social workers, editors... and the faces of re:Generations.

This image is just one of the many fabulous pictures my friend, Matthew John, captured behind the lens. (Thanks, MJ!) The pics will be used in re:Generations promotional materials, and you can check them out by clicking on the link below. Enjoy!

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2189087&l=837f9&id=17021329

Ps- Are my friends good lookin' (insert east TN accent) or what?

Lea's Weekly Update- Week #1

2008-06-06T15:43:00.021-04:00

Hello all! I am Lea Williams and I am new to the whole blogging experience, so bear with me. I started working with Jessica this week at re:Generations and think this information is super cool and interesting! Over the summer, I will be sharing this information with you by posting weekly blogs featuring Millennials in the news. It's what I have dubbed "Lea's Weekly Update." So here we go and I hope you enjoy...

Media bombardment is taking its toll

A Fox News report titled, Young Adults Hit by 'News Fatigue,' Study Finds discovers that over-played updates and breaking stories every minute, steps taken to capture the short attention span of Millennials, are having quite the opposite effect. It's wearing us out.

A key finding was that participants yearned for quality and in-depth reporting but had difficulty immediately accessing such content because they were bombarded by facts and updates in headlines and snippets of news.

"Our observations and analysis identified that consumers' news diets are out of balance due to the over-consumption of facts and headlines," said Robbie Blinkoff, co-founder and head anthropologist at Baltimore, Md.-based Context Research Group.

We're ready for depth. If you offer it... we will come. :)

And... Millennials are benevolent?

That's the case according to, "Study: Millennials just as willing to give,". The article, I found in the Western Michigan Business Review, reveals Millennials are willing to donate to organizations. The missing link is effective messaging.

"It's more of a communication issue," said Marie Gajewski, a researcher with the Dorothy A. Johnson Center for Philanthropy and Nonprofit Leadership at Grand Valley State University.

"Its like any other transition-- foundations and philanthropic organizations need to think about what issues are important to those donors and how they want to be communicated with and all of the other complexities that go into their fund raising," Gajewski said. "The needs of the market are changing. Organizations are having to adapt to that change and the way they raise funds."

That's great news for non-profits. Remember, effective communication is the key to reaching Millennials. Do you know my generation well enough to speak our language? It's a worthy cause...

"The Millennial generation is the next Great generation," [Grand Rapids Community Foundation Marketing Vice President Roberta] King said. "They are very engaged in doing things to make the world a better place, and they are very conscientious."

And that's your weekly update!

Now its your turn. Check out the articles (click the title of the article and it will bring you to the link) and leave me your thoughts...

Why are 20-somethings skipping out on Sundays? Part dos

2008-06-03T11:56:00.004-04:00

Churches and parachurch organizations across the map are starting to take this question seriously. And they should. We’re losing a generation of believers, and the future of the church and Christianity is at stake.

Forward thinking…

I would argue, based on research, observation and personal experience that the 10-20 year forecast for the church looks bleak. It’s time to turn the tide. Proverbs 19:18 talks about having vision. Without it, people perish.

A vision inventory…

What is our vision for the church? What are we doing to develop the rising generation of Christian leaders? How are we helping Millennials/20-somethings live out their faith in a culture that blatantly rejects it? Are we uniting generations, or dividing them?

I know, I know…

It’s no easy task. Our generational patterns and preferences are as different as night and day. Reaching out to my Facebook friendly, slightly self-absorbed, but totally cool generation :) is intimidating and a bit uncomfortable. But, it’s Biblical. Check out Titus 2:1-6

Understanding: the starting block

Marketers spend thousands of dollars researching and getting to know their target audience. The goal? Making their products appeal to a felt need. Hmm… interesting concept for the church (minus the $ Bling $ of course!) I’m going to focus the next few blog posts on my generation’s views of Christianity and the church, letting you inside our heads so to speak. I hope this helps you get to know us on an intimate level, and provides a springboard for discussion.

Until next time…

I leave you with J. Dys’ thought-provoking response to the '20-somethings MIA on Sunday morning’ post. It warrants front-page status. Enjoy!

Do you think that 20-somethings are leaving church b/c it lacks the theological rigor they are looking for?

Now, mind you, I do not believe any of them are going to answer Barna’s question that way, but, if read between the lines, I sense it would come close to that. We have created a half generation of adults that have known nothing but “seeker-sensitive” churches, entirely devoid of doctrine, it seems. In fact, many churches refuse to generate any theological statement for fear of being exclusive – as if Christ wasn’t. Theology, they say, is the stuff of old men and boredom, not youth and “experience.” What is left, is the Church competing against every other experience this world has to offer – most of which are decidedly more exciting and (let’s face it) pleasurable than most Churches.

So, my theory goes, if given the choice, the 20’s are going to jet for the door. In a last ditch effort to block their exit, Churches are going out of their way, often, to win them back. They add robotic lights, 3 or 4 more guitars to the stage, the pastor sheds the tie and goes grunge, and Sunday School shucks the catechism for a Starbucks.

While there is nothing intrinsically wrong with guitars, lights, thread-bear jeans, and over-priced coffee, it seems what Churches have done is create a false environment. They have created the illusion of worship, but not seen to the substance of it. The 20’s, like Pinocchio and the lost boys, have seen the glimmer and glam of the lights, not realizing the façade has no backing. It seems we are using “stunts” that are little more than worms on hooks to attract the 20’s and others to church. Should we be surprised when they run from the pain in their mouths? Is the gospel unattractive?

What the 20’s crave - correct me if I’m wrong - is substance far and against the emptiness that every other “experience” has to offer. While they talk a good game about “meaning, feelings, and justice,” all are but catch-words for post-modern emptiness – which itself cries for an absolute answer when pressed!

Sure, the church will not live or die by man-defined theology or catechism; but, I would think if we would take a lesson from the Reformers and re-grasp the doctrine of the Bible (sola scriptura), even the 20’s would be excited at the challenge.

I think they’re smarter than those who would have them be attracted by the lights and other shiny things give them credit for.

Disclaimer: I’m all about the over-priced coffee. :)

Why are we skipping out on Sundays? A thought or two from Dawn

2008-06-03T09:21:00.007-04:00

From trying to figure out our ‘non-relationship relationships’ with guys (that’s a post in itself!) to helping each other cope in the cubical, Dawn Vargo and I have spent countless hours trying to make sense of our ‘hot-disaster,’ 20-something lives. (Somehow Starbucks usually works its way into our solution set! And... yes...the baristas are our bffs)

Dawn will be a regular blogger for re:Generations. She makes her smashing debut below, tackling the loaded question, 'what's behind the 20-somethings' church-avoiding trend?' I hope you enjoy her thoughts/perspectives as much as I do. Welcome, Dawn!

"Some of the biggest complaints 20-somethings have about church is the judgmental and hypocritical attitude of churchgoers. Of all the words that characterize people who have been transformed by God's grace and compassion, judgmental and hypocritical should not make the list. If the message we are trying to give is so radically different than the description of church-goers, where have we gone wrong? Could it be that this perception is related to our confusion over the essentials vs. the preferences?

For instance, I attended a school where a dress code of skirts for the girls was given the same level of importance as attending church on Sunday. In other words, this preference was elevated to a level of morality that simply wasn't substantiated with Scripture. Regardless of what the leadership said about the dress codes' usefulness for a variety reasons (professionalism, modesty, and other good points), the importance they placed on that preference (i.e., their actions) simply didn't match up.

This example – trivial as it may seem – could be an example of the larger issue involved here. When we confuse the main and the plain things with the peripheral and preferential issues, this younger generation might start to say "no" to the apparent confusion, contradictions, and seemingly hypocritical way we seem to approach our faith.

Another reason that we may be seeing the drift away from church could be that we are so concerned with making our Christian faith cool, hip, and relevant. That might seem like a contradiction – after all, isn't the point of being "relevant" to reach out to the people who wouldn't normally be in church? Well, yes. But there is a serious danger in losing the essence of Christianity when we try to conform Christ and Scripture to the culture around us. Christ never called us to be popular or to give people a message that would be comfortable. His calling is a holistic, life-altering, radical, sacrificial and sometimes painful alternative to the ease around us. Our lives are to be totally and completely his – for whatever purpose He sees fit.

Sadly, when I look around at our comfortable Christian subculture it often looks like a less fun, more rules-oriented version of the world. And let's face it – why would someone make the effort to go to church to have a disingenuous and more constraining version of something that looks more genuine and fun?

When you start to add up these problems – and many more that I don't have time to go into – why would someone choose to spend a morning with "those" people when they could be sleeping in, hiking, camping, or just relaxing? (NOTE: coming from a person who skipped out on church last weekend for a camping trip, I'm not suggesting you're unspiritual if you occasionally trade in the pew-warming for a bonfire and communing with God in his amazing creation.)

Hopefully this will give you a place to start your thinking in these areas – and what we can do to change this trend."

Dawn Vargo is a bioethics analyst for Focus on the Family Action in Colorado Springs, Colorado.

A special thanks...

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To my new friends at First Baptist. I enjoyed our dialogue tonight. Thanks for receiving me so warmly! :)

20-somethings: MIA on Sunday mornings

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We all know the rhyme, ‘Here is the church. Here is the steeple. Open the doors and…’ wait… where are all the 20-something people? According to recent studies, you won’t find us in the pews. Take a look at these numbers from the Barna Group:

Six out of 10, 20-somethings were involved in a church during their teen years, but are now spiritually disengaged.

'Twenty-somethings continue to be the most spiritually independent and resistant age group in America,’ the study concludes. Director of the research, Barna President David Kinnaman, says ministries are missing the mark with this demographic. “The current state of ministry for the 20-somethings is woefully inadequate to address the spiritual needs of millions of young adults. These individuals are making significant life choices and determining the patterns and preferences of their spiritual reality while churches wait, generally in vain, for them to return after college or when kids come.”

I would HIGHLY encourage you to read this report. So, check it out:
http://www.barna.org/FlexPage.aspx?Page=BarnaUpdateNarrowPreview&BarnaUpdateID=24 5

Along the same vein, a Lifeway survey finds ‘churches are losing young adults in sobering numbers.’

Seven in 10 Protestants 18-30 (evangelical and mainline) who went to church regularly in high school quit attending by age 23.

The trend caught USA Today’s attention. I think it will catch yours, too. You can read the article here: http://www.usatoday.com/news/religion/2007-08-06-church-dropouts_n.htm

Why is my generation leaving the church? Will we return when the kids come? And what does all this mean for the future of the faithful? re:Generations blogger Dawn Vargo will tackle these questions and more next week. In the meantime, I’d love to hear YOUR thoughts.

Descending from the mountain, a re-cap of the Family Policy Council National Conference

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I had the great honor of traveling to beautiful Colorado Springs, Colorado, last weekend to speak with leaders across the country who, day in and day out, promote family ideals in the public square.

My trip started with a sweet surprise: a visit with one of the most outspoken advocates of the family, Focus on the Family Founder, Dr. James Dobson! (Thanks, VP!)

The Lord used one of Dr. Dobson’s recent broadcasts, ‘Who will answer the call?’ to affirm my calling to help equip my generation with Biblical truths. (Check it out: focusonthefamily.com, 12.30.07 daily broadcast)

I was so impressed by the hard-working individuals who carry out that call at the state-level. This is where I insert a shout out to my new Family Policy Council peeps!

We learned a lot about the rising generation and discussed tangible ways to message Millennials, like me. The consensus? We have a GREAT opportunity to reach my generation with God’s truths and the initial contact starts with appropriate messaging. So remember...

Step one: Meet us where we are: online. (Facebook, blogs, podcasts, ect.)
Kudos to Jeremy Dys, Executive Director of the Family Policy Council of West Virginia. He already created a Facebook group for his council and has 10 members! Nice!

Step two: Speak our language. (Short and sweet, appeal to the feel, etc.)

Now you are positioned for...

Step three: Educate. Articulate. Mentor!

It was a pleasure to be on the mountaintop with you; a group of like-minded friends committed to stand for righteousness. I hope you were inspired; I know I was. The challenge now, at least for me, is the descent back to my valley where I am called to live-out that stand. And so I leave you with a few words of encouragement from Oswald, ‘Ozzie,’ Chambers from ‘My Utmost For His Highest.’ Enjoy!

"We have all experienced times of exaltation on the mountain, when we have seen things from God’s perspective and have wanted to stay there. But God will never allow us to stay there. The true test of our spiritual life is in exhibiting the power to descend from the mountain. If we only have the power to go up, something is wrong."

"We are not made for the mountains, for sunrises, or for the other beautiful attractions in life— those are simply intended to be moments of inspiration. We are made for the valley and the ordinary things of life, and that is where we have to prove our stamina and strength."

"The mountaintop is not meant to teach us anything, it is meant to make us something."

http://www.rbc.org/devotionals/my-utmost-for-his-highest/10/01/devotion.aspx?year=2008

If I can serve you in the future, let me know!

Ps- To learn more about the Family Policy Council in your state, click here: http://www.citizenlink.org/fpc/

From generation to generation...

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We’re on the verge of one of the greatest generational shifts in history. As the Boomers’ reign nears its end, a new generation marches forward, to the beat of a different drum, to assume the throne.

Welcome, the Millennials. (Born between 1977-1998, according to the U.S. Census Bureau)

Based on size alone, the Millennials are bound to be an influential generation. Not just in the future; in the now. The oldest Millennials, the 20-somethings, are springing up in boardrooms across the country, electing public officials and making significant life choices that impact your world and mine. So, it’s imperative to ask: Who is this generation, and what do they believe?

I know a little about the Millennials because… well… I’m one of them! (Yes, I text often, move often, and update my Facebook profile more than often. That’s an entirely different post!) Through personal experience, and tons of research, I’ve come to the conclusion that my generation is completely confused, disconnected from the generations above us and, most sadly, detached from God and His truths. My passion is to help bridge those divides for the Kingdom’s sake.

And so I write to you: a parent longing to understand your young adult child, a church desperate to see our faces in your congregation again, a 20-something just trying to figure out where you fit in the uncertain world of life post-college.

From spirituality to spending habits, we’ll take a look at my generation’s lifestyle trends and worldviews. Guest bloggers representative of each generation will be featured monthly, sharing their personal experience and words of wisdom.

I pray this blog offers insight into my generation, and provides a forum for intergenerational dialogue. No matter what your age or stage, we’re in this together so that the ‘I AM’ will be remembered from generation to generation. (Exodus 3:14-15)